Here’s an excellent TED video that was posted by a friend (ty Rajiv) on facebook.
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
It’s all in how we see ourselves, and how we tolerate our own insecurities and imperfections. If we can understand ourselves and still be able to love us, then loving others will be more natural.
I absolutely love this video, and hope you do too.